wondermentality.

Tess scream I'm participating in a 31-day blogging challenge called reverb10, responding to writing prompts that are designed to elicit reflections on 2010, and hopes for 2011. You can find out more about it here. I am challenging myself to respond to each prompt in 15 minutes or less.

Today's challenge: Wonder. How did you cultivate a sense of wonder in your life this year?

 

Wondermentality.

Where do clouds go? asks Tess.

Do you see the cloud bones? she asks.

Is that a cloud factory? I hear from the back seat.

Do cat spines continue into their tails? she asks.

Where would we be if the world was uninvented? she ponders.

What would happen if rain fell up?

What would happen if nothing was small?

What would happen if there were no bones in my arms?

I WROTE A BOOK, she screams, handing me a few papers stapled together.

I'M MAKING A MOVIE! she exclaims.

I AM AWESOME! she declares.

Wonder belongs to children. We lose it as we age, afraid of showing it for fear we will be seen as unsophisticated and naive.

I have cultivated wonder this year by inhabiting Tess, as much as is possible. By listening to her questions, and by watching her arm move effortlessly into creating art, not plotting and planning but doing, broad strokes of bold color. By telling her "little girl" stories at bedtime in which the little girl is never named but we both know it is Tess herself, facing the same challenges Tess is facing–and triumphing. By starting to paint again myself. By focusing on my senses, moving beyond my head and into my body. By asking more questions, and stopping to listen to the answers. By inviting Tess to teach me.

By investing in a new kind of seeing, a new kind of mindset, a childlike one, a questioning and unknowing one, a wondermentality.

About Patti Digh

Patti Digh is an author, speaker, and educator who builds learning communities and gets to the heart of difficult topics. Her work over the last three decades has focused on diversity, inclusion, social justice, and living and working mindfully. She has developed diversity strategies and educational programming for major nonprofit and corporate organizations and has been a featured speaker at many national and international conferences.

12 comments to " wondermentality. "
  • Oh, Tess. I love her.

    “Wonder belongs to children.” Absolutely! I believe that is one of the many reasons I love spending my days with them. Thanks for capturing this wondermentality.

  • as I was answering this I was just so struck with how we have let the children have the wonder meanwhile we walk around depressed, cynical, bitter.

    There are lessons to learn from those wee ones.

    I have nine of them, you’d think I’d be immersed in wonder all of the time. But sadly, with each one, I thought I had to be more grown up.

    This year I have started making cracks in that wall that holds me prisoner and next year, I am going to blast out of this joint! I will be a wonder-filled woman!

    Thanks Patti. Your words capture me and fling me out into the wide universe.

  • jylene

    i love this. i remember how exhausting it was when my daughter hailey would ask me one question after another, a new one right on the tail of my answer to the previous one. this would usually take place while driving home from the after-school facility where she went while i worked, so my mind was worn down from a long day. after about 5 questions in a row, i would plead that my brain was too tired to continue answering. but her mind was an amazing thing to me– actually it still is and she is now 22!

  • I want to know the answer to the rain question. Please let me know when you find out. I always enjoy your posts about Tess immensely. I wish I was half the parent you are.

  • “Wonder”ful post! You are right about kids – alas, mine are grown and out of the house, but I get grandkids every other Sunday and more often via FaceBook quotes. And I can come savor yours, too! (and your blog – which, since I am also participating in Reverb10, I leave as a treat until I do my own).

  • Linnea

    My son is the deep one who makes me, in turn, look more deeply; my daughter wants to adopt Tess as her younger sister because Tess, like she, sees the world in her own wondrous way.

    My children have been, and continue to be, my best teachers, and they fill me with wonder every day. Who says all teens and tweens are surly and superficial?

  • You have such a great teacher in Tess. I love that the two of you share that wondermentality…
    Love that word…
    Love YOU.

  • I beat myself up a lot. Every one who knows me knows that.

    I do like to go into my work area and sing, “I’m So Pretty!” or “I am So Wonderful (to Me),” really loudly, and on key, actually. My coworkers know I’m nuts, but they also are reassured that I took my pills before coming to work. On top of all that, I had the most important person in my life tell me that I was pretty and wonderful!

  • Janet Barclay

    Interesting synchronicity again, with your comment “By focusing on my senses, moving beyond my head and into my body” – this weekend when I got together with my circle of friends-on-a-spiritual-journey we came to the conclusion that everything we need to know is contained in our DNA, in our cells, and we only have to get out of our heads and into our bodies and listen to the answers there. Wow!

  • Sally

    Tess just taught me! Meg is having some troubles with some of the kids in her class. I will invite her to tell the stories — and come up with solutions — as if she were helping someone else…..

    Thank you, Tess!

  • I absolutely adore the photo attached to this post! If that doesn’t shout joy and wonder and creativity and fearlessness, I don’t know what does. I don’t have children of my own yet, but I do carry a picture of myself at age 4 (when I’d yet to listen to the Gremlins of the world) to remind me that deep inside that uninhibited, wide-eyed, unabashedly creative girl still lives. Thank you, Tess for reminding us how we should approach life.

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