poetry wednesday : you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing

red_cloth-wallpaper-1152x720Kindness
by Naomi Shihab Nye

Before you know what kindness really is
you must lose things,
feel the future dissolve in a moment
like salt in a weakened broth.
What you held in your hand,
what you counted and carefully saved,
all this must go so you know
how desolate the landscape can be
between the regions of kindness.
How you ride and ride
thinking the bus will never stop,
the passengers eating maize and chicken
will stare out the window forever.

Before you learn the tender gravity of kindness
you must travel where the Indian in a white poncho
lies dead by the side of the road.
You must see how this could be you,
how he too was someone
who journeyed through the night with plans
and the simple breath that kept him alive.

Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside,
you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing. 
You must wake up with sorrow.
You must speak to it till your voice
catches the thread of all sorrows
and you see the size of the cloth.
Then it is only kindness that makes sense anymore,
only kindness that ties your shoes
and sends you out into the day to gaze at bread,
only kindness that raises its head
from the crowd of the world to say
It is I you have been looking for,
and then goes with you everywhere
like a shadow or a friend.
About Patti Digh

Patti Digh is an author, speaker, and educator who builds learning communities and gets to the heart of difficult topics. Her work over the last three decades has focused on diversity, inclusion, social justice, and living and working mindfully. She has developed diversity strategies and educational programming for major nonprofit and corporate organizations and has been a featured speaker at many national and international conferences.

6 comments to " poetry wednesday : you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing "
  • Norma Lundy

    Thanks for this! I needed those words to be on my slate of reading today! Mahalo!!!

  • Rosemary

    Really needed this. Recently was on a campaign of random kindness and smiling, hoping that little crooked mouth could tilt the axis of the tremendous sorrows around me. But this is very good, so good to read and absorb now. Thank you Patti.

  • T. Butler

    Ah, you just don’t know. I’ve been praying so hard that I can just help people with this miraculous plant, the cannabis plant that seems to have chosen me somehow. (Let’s put it this way: Little Miss “I Killed an Air Fern” is going to be planting some CBD strains for the oil.

    For the cancer, which the doctor thinks has returned only four months after the oncologist told me “you’re cancer-free: Merry Christmas, kid.” My teacher and neighbor, who grows the medical marijuana for me, said, “The reason this is happening is so you can know how to reach someone who is suffering. Only then can you help them. I look at you and you will be fine. And you’re now in the same ‘program’ I was.”

    Yeah, cancer again. But I feel good, except that dark mystery. I am very grateful on this 4/20, for the Kind Plant, as it’s known some places.

    It is my friend, though, this cancer. I just want to sing it to sleep. I prayed to learn to help and this will get me there. (Not signing my full name. Hope you understand.)

  • Teresa Hartley

    A perfect post, Patti. The fold and color of cloth, the words. Deepest gratitude.

  • my favorite poem, thanks for posting

  • Leslie Ferrara

    I just love her work. I felt so lucky to meet her at LIAV Camp 2014.
    Thanks for posting Patti!

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