your daily rock : be the change

The first post I ever wrote on 37days was about the killing of Kitty Genovese and the bystander effect.

She’s the young woman savagely stabbed to death in 1964 on a New York street with 38 people watching from their apartment windows. As Martin Gansberg reported in The New York Times after the murder, “For more than half an hour 38 respectable, law-abiding citizens in Queens watched a killer stalk and stab a woman in three separate attacks in Kew Gardens. Twice their chatter and the sudden glow of their bedroom lights interrupted him and frightened him off. Each time he returned, sought her out, and stabbed her again. Not one person telephoned the police during the assault; one witness called after the woman was dead.”

We stand by. We think someone else will help. We don’t feel qualified to do what needs doing. We watch other people’s reactions rather than trust our own.

“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.” –William James

Don’t be a bystander in life. Every day this week, when you find yourself thinking that you hope “they” or “somebody” will do something, ask yourself how you can be even a small part of the “they.” Speak up, help someone.

Be the change.

Love,

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(These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock Fairy.

About Patti Digh

Patti Digh is an author, speaker, and educator who builds learning communities and gets to the heart of difficult topics. Her work over the last three decades has focused on diversity, inclusion, social justice, and living and working mindfully. She has developed diversity strategies and educational programming for major nonprofit and corporate organizations and has been a featured speaker at many national and international conferences.

2 comments to " your daily rock : be the change "
  • Damian Elias

    I LOVE LOVE LOVE the Daily Rocks! I’m a psychologist in private practice in NYC and look forward to the daily rock each day, for me and for my patients. I think the idea of the bystander effect is a great contribution of social psychology and the Kitty Genovese story is a perfect way to elucidate the concept. However, the story as we all know it isn’t entirely true…

    (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Kitty_Genovese)

  • mpkemk@frontiernet.net

    Every time we see something happening, my husband tells me to mind my own business. I can’t, I just can’t. It’s not in my physical makeup; I’d want someone to step up and help me, so why wouldn’t I help another person?

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