your daily rock : tell it like it is

December 22, 2013 in Daily Rock, General

Sometimes we don’t “tell it like it is” for fear of disrupting the calm we hope to maintain (keeping in mind there is no “is” that is the same for everyone, so we would be telling our “is,” and not assuming it is someone else’s “is”).

Sometimes, we’re ill-equipped to tell it like it is for us without language that is hurtful to another, which is why we fear disrupting that calm. Telling our own truth should invoke the truth of others, and we need to be open to hearing that.

Sometimes we are fearful that our message will be met with ridicule. Sometimes we ridicule the truth of others.

But if we are a relationship with others that isn’t honest, and in which we can’t speak our truths with great love and respect, I wonder about the quality of that relationship. Is it built on lies or half-truths?

Tell it like it is, your truth, not in order to disrupt the calm but in order to go deeper into relationship. It is hard sometimes, and it is worth it.

Love,

(These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock Fairy.

About Patti Digh

Patti Digh is an author, speaker, and educator who builds learning communities and gets to the heart of difficult topics. Her work over the last three decades has focused on diversity, inclusion, social justice, and living and working mindfully. She has developed diversity strategies and educational programming for major nonprofit and corporate organizations and has been a featured speaker at many national and international conferences.