your daily rock : please don’t judge

October 16, 2013 in Daily Rock, General

I have judged people. And they have judged me. It is an ecosystem that flourishes because we all keep judging.

What if we stopped? We can’t stop ourselves from judging, but we can stop ourselves from acting on that judgement. Judging, making decisions about people based on very little information, seems hard-wired into us. That doesn’t mean we have to let it rule our interactions with others.

When you feel yourself judging yourself or others, it is because you are at an “edge,” a hot spot, a place of not knowing. Notice your first thought (judge) and work on your second (learn).

Take a deep breath. Don’t judge yourself for judging, just work with this question: “What else might be true?”

Love,

(These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock Fairy.

About Patti Digh

Patti Digh is an author, speaker, and educator who builds learning communities and gets to the heart of difficult topics. Her work over the last three decades has focused on diversity, inclusion, social justice, and living and working mindfully. She has developed diversity strategies and educational programming for major nonprofit and corporate organizations and has been a featured speaker at many national and international conferences.