your daily rock : ignore what people say

January 14, 2013 in Daily Rock, General

“…here’s what I’ve learned – people will hurt you, but you don’t have to respond – not every mean comment or cruel act deserves to be noticed …” -John Geddes, A Familiar Rain

One of Don Miguel Ruiz’ Four Agreements is this: “Don’t Take Anything Personally.” This is a practice that requires, well, practice. When I get triggered by someone’s hurtful comment, I try to remember that the most powerful person in a tug of war is the person who doesn’t pick up his or her end of the rope. Here’s how I process it, in part: Breathe in (Hello moment). Breathe out (I am here). Breathe in (I am not going to pick up my end of the rope) Breathe out (This is not about me). Breathe in (Hello moment). Breathe out (I am here and I am whole).

Can you let go of your end of the rope today?

Love,

About Patti Digh

Patti Digh is an author, speaker, and educator who builds learning communities and gets to the heart of difficult topics. Her work over the last three decades has focused on diversity, inclusion, social justice, and living and working mindfully. She has developed diversity strategies and educational programming for major nonprofit and corporate organizations and has been a featured speaker at many national and international conferences.

3 comments to " your daily rock : ignore what people say "


Sue Kearney

January 14, 2013 AT 11:51AM

Oh gosh Patti! Thank you. Just the reminder I needed this morning.

Gonna share this with my tribe.

Love and light,
Sue

Susan Jayne

January 14, 2013 AT 12:41PM

This is great – being a very over sensitive person so helpful.

Nigel

January 14, 2013 AT 12:47PM

Thank you Patti. I have been taking way too much personally lately and sometimes they are not even things directed at me, or are things that people write on Facebook without thinking at all about how it might impact someone else. I am not going to pick up the rope anymore unless it’s because we are having fun skipping.