thinking thursday : vote is a verb. and so is inequality.

Flags In this desperate slide toward election day, I am being bombarded by hate that is fueled by ignorance and fear and power and vast amounts of money. Bombarded.

Vote is a Verb, friends. Don't let hate win.

I was surprised recently by a comment on my Facebook page that indicted me for advocating for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and intersex human beings. The "friend" said she was shocked that I would be so offensive at a time when I was trying to promote a new book.

Color me shocked. And just in case there's any lingering doubt on where I stand on the issue of human rights for ALL HUMANS, including and especially my dear, precious, beloved LGBTQI friends, here are excerpts (emphasis mine) from a recent manifesto on the issue, one I wish I had written.

Buy my books, don't buy my books. Friend me on Facebook and follow me on Twitter, or don't. Agree with me or don't. Love me or don't. The moment I stop talking about things that matter to me, I am surely lost.


I have made a decision. I will no longer debate the issue of homosexuality in the church with anyone. I will no longer engage the biblical ignorance that emanates from so many right-wing Christians about how the Bible condemns homosexuality, as if that point of view still has any credibility. I will no longer discuss with them or listen to them tell me how homosexuality is "an abomination to God," about how homosexuality is a "chosen lifestyle," or about how through prayer and "spiritual counseling" homosexual persons can be "cured." Those arguments are no longer worthy of my time or energy. I will no longer dignify by listening to the thoughts of those who advocate "reparative therapy," as if homosexual persons are somehow broken and need to be repaired. I will no longer talk to those who believe that the unity of the church can or should be achieved by rejecting the presence of, or at least at the expense of, gay and lesbian people. I will no longer take the time to refute the unlearned and undocumentable claims of certain world religious leaders who call homosexuality "deviant." I will no longer listen to that pious sentimentality that certain Christian leaders continue to employ, which suggests some version of that strange and overtly dishonest phrase that "we love the sinner but hate the sin." That statement is, I have concluded, nothing more than a self-serving lie designed to cover the fact that these people hate homosexual persons and fear homosexuality itself, but somehow know that hatred is incompatible with the Christ they claim to profess, so they adopt this face-saving and absolutely false statement. I will no longer temper my understanding of truth in order to pretend that I have even a tiny smidgen of respect for the appalling negativity that continues to emanate from religious circles where the church has for centuries conveniently perfumed its ongoing prejudices against blacks, Jews, women and homosexual persons with what it assumes is "high-sounding, pious rhetoric." The day for that mentality has quite simply come to an end for me. I will personally neither tolerate it nor listen to it any longer. The world has moved on, leaving these elements of the Christian Church that cannot adjust to new knowledge or a new consciousness lost in a sea of their own irrelevance. They no longer talk to anyone but themselves. I will no longer seek to slow down the witness to inclusiveness by pretending that there is some middle ground between prejudice and oppression. There isn't. Justice postponed is justice denied. That can be a resting place no longer for anyone…

In my personal life, I will no longer listen to televised debates conducted by "fair-minded" channels that seek to give "both sides" of this issue "equal time." I am aware that these stations no longer give equal time to the advocates of treating women as if they are the property of men or to the advocates of reinstating either segregation or slavery, despite the fact that when these evil institutions were coming to an end the Bible was still being quoted frequently on each of these subjects. It is time for the media to announce that there are no longer two sides to the issue of full humanity for gay and lesbian people. There is no way that justice for homosexual people can be compromised any longer.

I make these statements because it is time to move on. The battle is over. The victory has been won. There is no reasonable doubt as to what the final outcome of this struggle will be. Homosexual people will be accepted as equal, full human beings, who have a legitimate claim on every right that both church and society have to offer any of us. Homosexual marriages will become legal, recognized by the state and pronounced holy by the church. "Don't ask, don't tell" will be dismantled as the policy of our armed forces. We will and we must learn that equality of citizenship is not something that should ever be submitted to a referendum. Equality under and before the law is a solemn promise conveyed to all our citizens in the Constitution itself. Can any of us imagine having a public referendum on whether slavery should continue, whether segregation should be dismantled, whether voting privileges should be offered to women? The time has come for politicians to stop hiding behind unjust laws that they themselves helped to enact, and to abandon that convenient shield of demanding a vote on the rights of full citizenship because they do not understand the difference between a constitutional democracy, which this nation has, and a "mobocracy," which this nation rejected when it adopted its constitution. We do not put the civil rights of a minority to the vote of a plebiscite.

The battle in both our culture and our church to rid our souls of this dying prejudice is finished. A new consciousness has arisen. A decision has quite clearly been made. Inequality for gay and lesbian people is no longer a debatable issue in either church or state. Therefore, I will from this moment on refuse to dignify the continued public expression of ignorant prejudice by engaging it. I do not tolerate racism or sexism any longer. From this moment on, I will no longer tolerate our culture's various forms of homophobia. I do not care who it is who articulates these attitudes or who tries to make them sound holy with religious jargon.
I have been part of this debate for years, but things do get settled and this issue is now settled for me. I do not debate any longer with members of the "Flat Earth Society" either. I do not debate with people who think we should treat epilepsy by casting demons out of the epileptic person; I do not waste time engaging those medical opinions that suggest that bleeding the patient might release the infection. I do not converse with people who think that Hurricane Katrina hit New Orleans as punishment for the sin of being the birthplace of Ellen DeGeneres or that the terrorists hit the United Sates on 9/11 because we tolerated homosexual people, abortions, feminism or the American Civil Liberties Union. I am ready now to claim the victory. I will from now on assume it and live into it. I am unwilling to argue about it or to discuss it as if there are two equally valid, competing positions any longer. The day for that mentality has simply gone forever.
This is my manifesto and my creed. I proclaim it today. I invite others to join me in this public declaration. I believe that such a public outpouring will help cleanse both the church and this nation of its own distorting past. It will restore integrity and honor to both church and state. It will signal that a new day has dawned and we are ready not just to embrace it, but also to rejoice in it and to celebrate it. 

I write a thank you note every day. Today's card is going to Bishop John Shelby Spong.
About Patti Digh

Patti Digh is an author, speaker, and educator who builds learning communities and gets to the heart of difficult topics. Her work over the last three decades has focused on diversity, inclusion, social justice, and living and working mindfully. She has developed diversity strategies and educational programming for major nonprofit and corporate organizations and has been a featured speaker at many national and international conferences.

24 comments to " thinking thursday : vote is a verb. and so is inequality. "
  • Hear, hear!

    Thanks for sharing Bishop Spong’s manifesto.

  • Wow, so sorry to hear you’re the target of such horrible energy.

    That is an excellent treatise. The bible also says “Judge not, lest ye be judged.” A lot of people, evidently, skip over that part.

    Blessings,
    Carolynn

  • Karen in the UK

    I thought you might post that one, Patti; it was such a clear sighted and powerful piece. I too highlighted parts of it, especially:

    *I will no longer seek to slow down the witness to inclusiveness by pretending that there is some middle ground between prejudice and oppression.*

    ….So worthy of repetition. May oppression and ignorance be dispersed; may compassion and understanding take their place.

  • marianne

    Absolutely and Positively, Yes!
    Thank you for sharing, as always.

  • I noticed that you have a “reblog” botton on your post. I don’t have a typepad blog. Mine is on wordpress. would you mind if I copied your post and reprinted the portion from Bishop John Shelby Spong on my blog, giving your blog credit also? I think it is amazing and rings so true for my own heart.

    Sharon

  • marianne

    I’ve been searching for a way to share your post on my FB page, any ideas? (I checked on your FB and this post isn’t there, otherwise I would’ve gone that route.

  • Sharon – please feel free to share it!

  • i’m sending love, love, love

  • Trudy Boyle

    Thank you Patti Digh!
    I will write my own thank you note to Bishop Spong.I am inspired by his clarity and his congruence.

    I appreciate not only your own writing but your “clipping service” for things that count.You do the world a service.
    Good luck with your book tour.
    Trudy

  • jylene

    thanks you so much for sharing this. it is wonderful!

  • Tom Harrington

    I find it so difficult to fathom that anyone could send YOU hate-mail of any kind. Jeez, you have to be one of the kindest and most open minded people on this little planet. Thanks for posting the good Bishop’s Manifesto. It was awesome! Why can’t we all just allow every person to be who they really are?

    Thank you for being you.

  • “I will no longer seek to slow down the witness to inclusiveness by pretending that there is some middle ground between prejudice and oppression.”

    This one line for me sums up the whole message. There is no middle ground insofar as ridding ourselves of prejudice – whether it be based on racism, sexism, homophobia, religious intolerance, etc.

    We need to understand (and accept it and live it) that we are all part of one human family. No one of us, no group of us, should endure inequality.

    Love You Patti
    Love Bishop Spong

    Blessings

    Kelly

  • Sally

    He’s been wonderful for a long time, and I salute YOU, Patti, for continuing to SAY WHAT YOU THINK! No compromise.

  • Jim

    Is it ironic when I passionately label the other’s passion “pious”?

    Patti, you wrote, “And just in case there’s any lingering doubt on where I stand on the issue of human rights…”

    From whence do “human rights” emanate?

  • Cheryl Corgan

    Thank you so much for this Patti….Love conquers all…once again

  • Bishop John Shelby Spong first came to my attention about a year ago when he was interviewed on “Charlotte Talks.”

    I’ve since read several of his books, but I had not seen this manifesto.

    Thanks for sharing.

    -Dave

  • Denita Purser

    Wow. WOW. ROCK ON PATTI!! I read this and see that picture of you, Chanette and Jessica in my mind..and feel your passion for loving EVERYONE as they are, just as they are. BUT more importantly, for shouting that OUTLOUD!

    Denita

  • Denise

    As a person who has always had gay friends, and as a mother of a gay son, your passion for equality touches my heart. Sadly, we have heard way too many times from certain family members “love the sinner, hate the sin”. Their eagerness to proclaim that our son and our friends are an abomination while reciting bible verses, and spouting their opinions based on religious intolerance, is offensive.

    Thank you for your voice and thank you for this post.

  • Miriam

    i LOVE this. Amen (in the original sense of ‘i agree’).

    And on the subject of thank you notes…have you seen

    http://thxthxthx.com/

    ?

  • A powerful and moving post and I remember your daily thank you notes, too.

  • Thank you. These are issues where there can be no compromise, where there is no tenable middle ground.

  • Betsy

    I too am always looking for a way to share your posts on Facebook and never see a share button… am I missing something?

    This is fabulous… so clearly states the sentiments I am not articulate enough to get out.

  • Thank you Patti, for standing in your power and speaking your mind….and for consistently sharing what most obviously needs to be shared. I have re-posted and shared my thoughts here: http://inspirationsstudio.blogspot.com/2010/10/manifesto-from-wise-elder.html
    Blessings to you!

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