conference : comparisons are odorous

Best of 09 Challenge

December 6 Workshop or conference. Was there a conference or workshop you attended that was especially beneficial? Where was it? What did you learn?

Tmm I've spoken at a lot of conferences this year, meeting people around the U.S., hearing firsthand about the challenges their industries are facing. One stands out for two lessons.

Austin, Texas. Risk managers met for two days to learn. I was the keynote speaker on Day Two.

Lesson #1 : "Comparisons are odorous." -William Shakespeare

Before leaving for the conference, I took a look at the final online program to get a sense of context. How might my words fit the whole of their meeting? I was to be the closing keynote. Another woman was their opening keynote. She was the first American woman to row across the Atlantic ocean solo. She was also the first woman and first American to travel over land to the geographic South Pole, skiing 750 miles from the ice shelf to the pole.

THE FIRST AMERICAN WOMAN TO ROW ACROSS THE ATLANTIC OCEAN SOLO. MUCH LESS THE WHOLE SOUTH POLE THING.

I had two things in common with her: I am a woman. I am American.

Immediately, I started comparing my message to what I could imagine hers is. "I HAVEN'T ROWED ACROSS ANYTHING!" I said to my business partner. "MUCH LESS A FREAKIN' OCEAN!"

"What I have to say will way pale in comparison. I'm sure she'll have stories of storms and overcoming adversity and videos of big swells. I've got nothing."

"I didn't realize this was a competition," he said to me quietly.

On the plane ride to Austin, I realized that raising two children might be just as hard–or harder–than rowing across the Atlantic solo.

Lesson #2 : Conferences have an opportunity to support local artists 

At that conference in Austin, each general session was begun by a local musician who played for ten minutes. A young singer/songwriter took the stage as my session began. "I'm happy to be here," she said. "This is the earliest in the day I've ever played music. And you look like the most sober crowd I've ever played to." She charmed us all for ten minutes of simple guitar music and her beautiful voice.

Why don't more conference organizers look for simple, meaningful ways to support local artists?

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About Patti Digh

Patti Digh is an author, speaker, and educator who builds learning communities and gets to the heart of difficult topics. Her work over the last three decades has focused on diversity, inclusion, social justice, and living and working mindfully. She has developed diversity strategies and educational programming for major nonprofit and corporate organizations and has been a featured speaker at many national and international conferences.

2 comments to " conference : comparisons are odorous "
  • Patti, you were given the big hint in that quiet voice of your business partner.

    I would like to go on record as declaring parenting–and I mean the kind where you agonize over decisions which the less-impassioned might gloss over–is harder than anything. It is harder because it never ends. My mom was being my mom Saturday night as we watched my 23-year-old daughter perform (she rocked the house with the aria from the Bach cantata, I should mention). Parents are forever. It is more joyful and rewarding and delightful and surprising and scary as hell for exactly the same reason, the forever thing.

  • Thanks for the mind-messing post here Patti!

    Something in our minds love a comparison.

    Another sabotaging kind of comparison I’ve fought is not with “other” speakers but with myself.

    Have you ever given a what was thought to be a great presentation only to be invited back to give “another” great presentation? My thoughts often set me into competition with myself – “how will I ever compete with last year’s speech?”

    Anyhow, just thinking out loud…

    Keep creating…it freaks people out,
    Mike

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