Stay in school. Study hard. Set goals for yourself.

Obama reading I'm disappointed in us.

The adults of this country are letting partisan politics cloud our judgment. We are letting fear stand in the place of sense; we are arguing when we need to be listening. Ultimately, we are using children as pawns. Who is our objection serving?

I hear you, those who are opposed to Obama speaking to school children today. I respect your opinion and your desire to control what your children hear–and I only ask that you respect mine. Let us base our reaction to this speech on the message, not the messenger and the politics involved.

While I fully support the rights of responsible parents everywhere to make the decisions they believe necessary for their children, I really would love to see the kind of energy focused on opposing Obama's address to school children today channeled into doing something about child hunger. Or child abuse. Or child prostitution. Or children dying of AIDs.

Please know that I respect and value the viewpoint of those opposed to this – that's what makes diversity work. But there is so much we need to do and provide for our children – it seems we could all put to much more important and meaningful use the amazing love and focus on our kids that I believe grounds both our support and opposition of Obama on this issue.

Can I control the messages my children receive from the media, from teachers, from peers, from the President? No, ultimately, I can't. And, frankly, I don't want to. I want to raise children who are open to the viewpoints of others–even when they disagree with them–especially when they disagree with them. I want to raise children able to have a speech or conversation or lesson plan open them up for conversation with me, with their friends, with teachers, about how they feel about what they heard. Not children who are shielded from people with differing views.

Some of the objections I’ve heard to Obama’s address to kids in school are that he is pushing a socialist (even Communist) agenda. When did sharing and studying hard and helping the U.S. be the best it can be become Communist? That this is a political move on his part. When did any President do anything that wasn’t in some measure political? That parents should be able to control the messages their children hear. On a daily basis, are you sitting in your child’s classroom to do so?

Yes, I voted for Barack Obama. Yet I would speak the same truth if it were George W. Bush addressing school children–as presidents have done in the past. We must balance our personal definitions of democracy with respect for the Office of the President, my friends, or we are lost.

You will find only one negative mention of George W. Bush on this site, when I called him to task for his delay in responding to Hurricane Katrina. While I personally disagreed with many of his political views and decisions, I chose to work for what I believed was right and true and good rather than work against him. I didn't spend energy negating him, but creating the world I believed was just and right and true. The direction of my intention, in that way, was positive rather than negative. I believe we all must strive to create what we believe in, not tear down what we disagree with.

For those upset that their children won’t hear Obama’s speech in school—consider the message you are sending your children by pulling them out of school to hear a speech about staying in school. Perhaps there is a more positive approach, one that moves us forward, not backward in recoil. Don’t fall prey to also using children as pawns.

I have worked in the local high school with youth at risk. I know the importance of this message. Let's put politics aside, shall we, and welcome this important–vital–message to our youth (emphasis in bold in the transcript below is mine) from our President of the United States of America, a man whom many of them respect and will listen to. It occurs to me that we adults have screwed up the educational system in this country. Let's not take away the power to change it from the very people who are in the best position to do so–our nation's youth.

Prepared Remarks of President Barack Obama

Back to School Event – Arlington, Virginia – September 8, 2009

The President:

Hello everyone – how’s everybody doing today? I’m here with students at Wakefield High School in Arlington, Virginia. And we’ve got students tuning in from all across America, kindergarten through twelfth grade. I’m glad you all could join us today. 

I know that for many of you, today is the first day of school. And for those of you in kindergarten, or starting middle or high school, it’s your first day in a new school, so it’s understandable if you’re a little nervous. I imagine there are some seniors out there who are feeling pretty good right now, with just one more year to go. And no matter what grade you’re in, some of you are probably wishing it were still summer, and you could’ve stayed in bed just a little longer this morning.
I know that feeling. When I was young, my family lived in Indonesia for a few years, and my mother didn’t have the money to send me where all the American kids went to school. So she decided to teach me extra lessons herself, Monday through Friday – at 4:30 in the morning.   
Now I wasn’t too happy about getting up that early. A lot of times, I’d fall asleep right there at the kitchen table. But whenever I’d complain, my mother would just give me one of those looks and say, "This is no picnic for me either, buster."
So I know some of you are still adjusting to being back at school. But I’m here today because I have something important to discuss with you. I’m here because I want to talk with you about your education and what’s expected of all of you in this new school year. 
Now I’ve given a lot of speeches about education. And I’ve talked a lot about responsibility.
I’ve talked about your teachers’ responsibility for inspiring you, and pushing you to learn. 
I’ve talked about your parents’ responsibility for making sure you stay on track, and get your homework done, and don’t spend every waking hour in front of the TV or with that Xbox. 
I’ve talked a lot about your government’s responsibility for setting high standards, supporting teachers and principals, and turning around schools that aren’t working where students aren’t getting the opportunities they deserve. 
But at the end of the day, we can have the most dedicated teachers, the most supportive parents, and the best schools in the world – and none of it will matter unless all of you fulfill your responsibilities. Unless you show up to those schools; pay attention to those teachers; listen to your parents, grandparents and other adults; and put in the hard work it takes to succeed. 
And that’s what I want to focus on today: the responsibility each of you has for your education. I want to start with the responsibility you have to yourself. 
Every single one of you has something you’re good at. Every single one of you has something to offer. And you have a responsibility to yourself to discover what that is. That’s the opportunity an education can provide. 
Maybe you could be a good writer – maybe even good enough to write a book or articles in a newspaper – but you might not know it until you write a paper for your English class. Maybe you could be an innovator or an inventor – maybe even good enough to come up with the next iPhone or a new medicine or vaccine – but you might not know it until you do a project for your science class. Maybe you could be a mayor or a Senator or a Supreme Court Justice, but you might not know that until you join student government or the debate team.
And no matter what you want to do with your life – I guarantee that you’ll need an education to do it. You want to be a doctor, or a teacher, or a police officer? You want to be a nurse or an architect, a lawyer or a member of our military? You’re going to need a good education for every single one of those careers. You can’t drop out of school and just drop into a good job. You’ve got to work for it and train for it and learn for it.
And this isn’t just important for your own life and your own future. What you make of your education will decide nothing less than the future of this country. What you’re learning in school today will determine whether we as a nation can meet our greatest challenges in the future. 
You’ll need the knowledge and problem-solving skills you learn in science and math to cure diseases like cancer and AIDS, and to develop new energy technologies and protect our environment. You’ll need the insights and critical thinking skills you gain in history and social studies to fight poverty and homelessness, crime and discrimination, and make our nation more fair and more free. You’ll need the creativity and ingenuity you develop in all your classes to build new companies that will create new jobs and boost our economy. 
We need every single one of you to develop your talents, skills and intellect so you can help solve our most difficult problems. If you don’t do that – if you quit on school – you’re not just quitting on yourself, you’re quitting on your country. 
Now I know it’s not always easy to do well in school. I know a lot of you have challenges in your lives right now that can make it hard to focus on your schoolwork.
I get it. I know what that’s like. My father left my family when I was two years old, and I was raised by a single mother who struggled at times to pay the bills and wasn’t always able to give us things the other kids had. There were times when I missed having a father in my life. There were times when I was lonely and felt like I didn’t fit in. 
So I wasn’t always as focused as I should have been. I did some things I’m not proud of, and got in more trouble than I should have. And my life could have easily taken a turn for the worse. 
But I was fortunate. I got a lot of second chances and had the opportunity to go to college, and law school, and follow my dreams. My wife, our First Lady Michelle Obama, has a similar story. Neither of her parents had gone to college, and they didn’t have much. But they worked hard, and she worked hard, so that she could go to the best schools in this country.
Some of you might not have those advantages. Maybe you don’t have adults in your life who give you the support that you need. Maybe someone in your family has lost their job, and there’s not enough money to go around. Maybe you live in a neighborhood where you don’t feel safe, or have friends who are pressuring you to do things you know aren’t right. 
But at the end of the day, the circumstances of your life – what you look like, where you come from, how much money you have, what you’ve got going on at home – that’s no excuse for neglecting your homework or having a bad attitude. That’s no excuse for talking back to your teacher, or cutting class, or dropping out of school. That’s no excuse for not trying. 
Where you are right now doesn’t have to determine where you’ll end up. No one’s written your destiny for you. Here in America, you write your own destiny. You make your own future. 
That’s what young people like you are doing every day, all across America. 
Young people like Jazmin Perez, from Roma, Texas. Jazmin didn’t speak English when she first started school. Hardly anyone in her hometown went to college, and neither of her parents had gone either. But she worked hard, earned good grades, got a scholarship to Brown University, and is now in graduate school, studying public health, on her way to being Dr. Jazmin Perez.
I’m thinking about Andoni Schultz, from Los Altos, California, who’s fought brain cancer since he was three. He’s endured all sorts of treatments and surgeries, one of which affected his memory, so it took him much longer – hundreds of extra hours – to do his schoolwork. But he never fell behind, and he’s headed to college this fall. 
And then there’s Shantell Steve, from my hometown of Chicago, Illinois. Even when bouncing from foster home to foster home in the toughest neighborhoods, she managed to get a job at a local health center; start a program to keep young people out of gangs; and she’s on track to graduate high school with honors and go on to college.
Jazmin, Andoni and Shantell aren’t any different from any of you. They faced challenges in their lives just like you do. But they refused to give up. They chose to take responsibility for their education and set goals for themselves. And I expect all of you to do the same. 
That’s why today, I’m calling on each of you to set your own goals for your education – and to do everything you can to meet them. Your goal can be something as simple as doing all your homework, paying attention in class, or spending time each day reading a book. Maybe you’ll decide to get involved in an extracurricular activity, or volunteer in your community. Maybe you’ll decide to stand up for kids who are being teased or bullied because of who they are or how they look, because you believe, like I do, that all kids deserve a safe environment to study and learn. Maybe you’ll decide to take better care of yourself so you can be more ready to learn. And along those lines, I hope you’ll all wash your hands a lot, and stay home from school when you don’t feel well, so we can keep people from getting the flu this fall and winter.
Whatever you resolve to do, I want you to commit to it. I want you to really work at it. 
I know that sometimes, you get the sense from TV that you can be rich and successful without any hard work — that your ticket to success is through rapping or basketball or being a reality TV star, when chances are, you’re not going to be any of those things. 
But the truth is, being successful is hard. You won’t love every subject you study. You won’t click with every teacher. Not every homework assignment will seem completely relevant to your life right this minute. And you won’t necessarily succeed at everything the first time you try.
That’s OK.  Some of the most successful people in the world are the ones who’ve had the most failures. JK Rowling’s first Harry Potter book was rejected twelve times before it was finally published. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team, and he lost hundreds of games and missed thousands of shots during his career. But he once said, "I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." 
These people succeeded because they understand that you can’t let your failures define you – you have to let them teach you. You have to let them show you what to do differently next time. If you get in trouble, that doesn’t mean you’re a troublemaker, it means you need to try harder to behave. If you get a bad grade, that doesn’t mean you’re stupid, it just means you need to spend more time studying. 
No one’s born being good at things, you become good at things through hard work. You’re not a varsity athlete the first time you play a new sport. You don’t hit every note the first time you sing a song. You’ve got to practice. It’s the same with your schoolwork. You might have to do a math problem a few times before you get it right, or read something a few times before you understand it, or do a few drafts of a paper before it’s good enough to hand in. 
Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. I do that every day. Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength. It shows you have the courage to admit when you don’t know something, and to learn something new. So find an adult you trust – a parent, grandparent or teacher; a coach or counselor – and ask them to help you stay on track to meet your goals. 
And even when you’re struggling, even when you’re discouraged, and you feel like other people have given up on you – don’t ever give up on yourself. Because when you give up on yourself, you give up on your country.
The story of America isn’t about people who quit when things got tough. It’s about people who kept going, who tried harder, who loved their country too much to do anything less than their best. 
It’s the story of students who sat where you sit 250 years ago, and went on to wage a revolution and found this nation. Students who sat where you sit 75 years ago who overcame a Depression and won a world war; who fought for civil rights and put a man on the moon. Students who sat where you sit 20 years ago who founded Google, Twitter and Facebook and changed the way we communicate with each other.
So today, I want to ask you, what’s your contribution going to be? What problems are you going to solve? What discoveries will you make? What will a president who comes here in twenty or fifty or one hundred years say about what all of you did for this country?  
Your families, your teachers, and I are doing everything we can to make sure you have the education you need to answer these questions. I’m working hard to fix up your classrooms and get you the books, equipment and computers you need to learn. But you’ve got to do your part too. So I expect you to get serious this year. I expect you to put your best effort into everything you do. I expect great things from each of you. So don’t let us down – don’t let your family or your country or yourself down. Make us all proud. I know you can do it.
Thank you, God bless you, and God bless America.
About Patti Digh

Patti Digh is an author, speaker, and educator who builds learning communities and gets to the heart of difficult topics. Her work over the last three decades has focused on diversity, inclusion, social justice, and living and working mindfully. She has developed diversity strategies and educational programming for major nonprofit and corporate organizations and has been a featured speaker at many national and international conferences.

11 comments to " Stay in school. Study hard. Set goals for yourself. "
  • Thanks for posting the speech, what a great message it is. I think we adults can find a message for ourselves here too. For me perhaps this is the year I will get serious about fulfilling my dreams.

  • The idea that people would choose to censor the inspiring and encouraging words for school children from The President of the United States makes me sad, angry and scared.
    I am disappointed in us too.
    Thank you for sharing President Obama’s speech here.

  • Patti, I love this. Thank you. THAT’S what I want to say in my FB rants but run out of space. I’m so disappointed about how this played out and I’m more convinced than ever that this country has a divide that we’ll never repair.

  • SUGGESTION TO THE RIGHT WING:

    Just sit back and relax, folks. Barack Obama is only performing a routine presidential duty that has been performed by presidents for generations. There’s nothing to be afraid of. He’s not trying to turn your babies into mini Marxists. This isn’t the Trotsky For Toddlers program. The president of the United States merely wants to have a heart to heart talk with the children of America about the importance of a good education, that’s all. I promise you, we Progressives do not believe in evil, subliminal messages. Chill out!

    STNERAP RUOY LLIK – NERDLIHC

    Just kidding.

    http://www.tomdegan.blogspot.com

    Tom Degan
    Goshen, NY

  • Michelle

    Thanks Patty — please consider sending the text of your post to a newspaper editor somewhere – local or national! – it’s pretty easy since most have on-line forms on their website to send submissions.

    I really hope that more people get to see your level-headed and loving critique – especially the part about channeling this energy to really help children in need.

    Thanks! — Michelle

  • Johhny P.

    This is one of those unreal times when we see zero+zero adding up to something not zero.

  • Pilbara Pink

    Thank you for posting the transcript – here in Australia we had heard a little about the furore around the speech but I had not heard/read it. How sensible for someone to speak directly to children and tell them they have responsibilities too – maybe that is the problem people have with it! No blame, no excuses – just do your best. How can anyone argue with that?

  • Thanks for including the speech in its entirety. Far as I can tell, Mr. Obama’s message was pretty simple and straighforward:

    Find your unique best. Ask for help if you need it. Then give that best no matter what: devote yourself to it. Then give it in love, service and contribution to the whole without losing yourself in the process.

    Pretty hard to argue with unless you don’t really stand for the whole…

    It’s nowhere near easy to respect those unable to act with respect.

    It’s nowhere way near easy to stand on higher ground without taking a shot at the other’s.

    It’s nowhere near easy to extend the hand of friendship and cooperation to those who would laugh at or turn on the gesture, making a mockery of your efforts as they do.

    It’s nowhere easy to share with those who’d scorn and berate you a vision that comes straight from the heart in the hopes of building a better common future.

    But in the end, doing what’s not easy while standing for the best interests of all concerned is the only thing that really teaches – adult and child alike – isn’t it?

    Ms. Patti – thanks once again for doing so well, and with such courage, grace and heart, what’s not easy but needed. And time.

  • Jill D.

    If I wasn’t a big ole Patti Digh fan before, I AM NOW!
    (p.s., I was a fan before, btw)

  • Brenda K.

    Fabulous commentary Patti! Ahhh…I remember the days when Americans actually respected and revered the President even if they didn’t agree with him.
    Now they worry about whether the First Lady is wearing shorts on vacation and what kind of jeans the President wears when throwing out the first pitch at a baseball game. What has happened to this country and the mentality of the people?

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