A litany for Gay.

Gay bathGay - Marshalls Marshalls I have written before about a weekend at the farm, my friend Gay's family place – magic, it is – in North Carolina. A weekend during which the rains of a hurricane bore down upon us, making me lie awake in my tiny twin bed wondering if the lake would overtake us, pots of grits floating by when we woke up.

Gay 3bwGay It was that weekend when I found Billy. Or, rather, Gay introduced me to him. Billy who?

Pshaw. Everyone together now: Billy Collins.

Garden_party She introduced me to him by reading his poem "Litany," still a favorite of mine. Because of the rain on that tin roof, Rosemary and I had to scootch very close to hear–and still Gay had to scream the poem to be heard over the rain. That fantastic Southern drawl still not disappeared after years near San Francisco, pouring torrential rain on tin, and little Billy screamed at the top of her lungs. By way of introduction, you really must read this post about my telling Billy Collins that very story WHEN WE TALKED ON THE PHONE ONE MORNING, JUST THE TWO OF US, ME AND BILLY. I'll wait right here until you come back.

Gay - 3 So it felt only fitting to write a litany to Gay for her 60th birthday party, recently held at that very farm, under that tin roof, and–also–in the rain. Though we are unrelated and none of our last names is or ever has been Marshall, Gay, Rosemary, and I are affectionately known as The Marshall Sisters. We will always be The Marshall Sisters.

Here's my dear sweet Billy's version. Might be important to read that one first. Or, better yet, listen to The Man read it.

And here's mine. To Gay, for 60 more:

Litany for Gay

You are the bread and the knife,
the crystal goblet and the wine.
You are the mean one in the convertible
and a dead ringer for Desmond Tutu.
You are the turquoise belt buckle of BIM

and the Ten Thousand Waves of the sea
However, you are not the mended bra,
the lavender ice cream in Waterford,
nor the brilliant or beautiful one.
And you are certainly not the sixty-year-old.

There is just no way you are the sixty-year-old.
It is possible that you are the itchy tart,
maybe even the whooping crane and the goddess,
but you are not even close

to being the sixty-year-old.
And a quick look in the mirror will show
that you are dry clean only.

It might interest you to know,
speaking of the plentiful imagery of the world,

that you are one of the three peas,
but we are the sound of rain on the roof.
We also happen to be your oldest and dear friends,
the sound of martini glasses filled with risotto,

the chocolate tortoni at Weaver’s Cottage,
and a table set completely on fire at Rupperts.
We are also Tuscany West, Smith Mountain Lake,
and the ruby red Tupperware.

So don't worry, we are the Marshall Sisters.
We will always be the Marshall Sisters.
But we are not the bread and the knife.
You are still the bread and the knife.
You will always be the bread and the knife,
not to mention the crystal goblet and–somehow–the wine.

About Patti Digh

Patti Digh is an author, speaker, and educator who builds learning communities and gets to the heart of difficult topics. Her work over the last three decades has focused on diversity, inclusion, social justice, and living and working mindfully. She has developed diversity strategies and educational programming for major nonprofit and corporate organizations and has been a featured speaker at many national and international conferences.

24 comments to " A litany for Gay. "
  • Summer

    At this, I think Billy Collins

    might
    gag.

    It is too precious.
    It is too personal.
    As Billy likes to iterate, nobody cares about your life. You have to make the poem more expansive than that.

    But, alas

    you
    didn’t.

  • patti digh

    Summer – While I always appreciate feedback, in this case, I think you might have missed that this wasn’t written as poetry, but intended exactly as a precious, personal, non-expansive, gag-inducing echo of Billy. In which case, not alas, but indeed, I did.

  • Kim

    Indeed, Patti, I found the words a wonderful tribute to one of three peas, the original Marshall sister, and they made me smile…. What a gift you have given her with your writing, and your friendship. I appreciate your bringing us into the fold through this tribute. XO

  • Kathy

    I rather too suspect that Billy would gag – on the coffee spewing from his mouth while he was surprised with this, laughing greatly.

    What fun. Happiest 60th, Gay.

  • Miss Marshall

    Of course I LOVE this poem. It was received as written…as an amazingly imaginative, funny hoot. Guess you had to be there. Glad I was.

  • Summer

    Well, I know Billy. And I think (guessing here, but my guess is so much better than yours) that this is the kind of thing that does not make him laugh. This is the kind of thing he writes about. You could try reading THE TROUBLE WITH POETRY. You could try listening to or reading interviews he gives. This is the kind of stuff that gets stuck on the sole of the shoe of poetry.

  • patti digh

    Summer – You seem really troubled by what was a lark and a tribute to a friend, not something intended to be heralded in the annals of poetry. So sorry to have caused you such pain. Lest you think I don’t know his work, or haven’t listened to his interviews, oh I have many times. Many, many times. I think your fantastic energy about the soul/sole of poetry might be a tad displaced here, but I love that you appreciate and know Billy.

  • janet

    A fine morning of writing Patti – you are the bread and the knife! But not the corn in the field.

    xxoo-
    janet

  • Steve Clyburn

    To echo Miss Marshall, one had to be there… to howl with glee at the poignant inside references, to marvel at your brilliant application of Marshall memories into Billy’s cadence and meter while revering his original creation, to give thanks for the gathering of oldest and dearest in that very special place again for the celebration. I’m so glad you enjoyed the grits.

  • jylene

    touche’ (too-shay)

    i’m not positive about the spelling.
    hope i won’t be scolded for it!

  • Summer

    Patti, I know that you know and appreciate Billy’s work. I knew about your phone call before you did.

    As it happens, I correctly predicted my friend’s opinion, and he laughed and said that my metaphor about the stuff that gets stuck on the sole of poetry was excellent.

    He’s not into the “When I’m an Old Woman I Shall Wear Purple” crowd/mindset– or any kind of hokey poetry/tributes, etc. He gets them all the time. He appreciates the sentiment, when directed toward him, but abhors sentimentality. Any good interview with him will reveal that. He writes through a persona. It’s not him.

    No worries now– or ever– of you being heralded in the annals of poetry. You’re the queen bee of your blog. So long as you know that’s all you are.

  • patti digh

    Summer – I get that you know Billy Collins and am so happy for you! That’s wonderful! I get that you know him and I don’t. That’s true, too, evidently. I get that you feel the need to win, here. That’s cool, too. Really – I don’t need to win. I don’t even feel the need to pick up my end of the rope. I’m not sure why you seem intent on disparaging me, but if it makes you feel good and important and in the know, by all means…

  • Katharina

    Does Billy Collins know that he has a friend who speaks for him? Or perhaps this is his publicist. So he is not into the “When I am an Old Woman, I Shall Wear Purple” mindset? What is that supposed to mean? I’m pretty sure that Billy Collins is not an old woman, but so this means he is against creativity as one ages? I’m only 40 now, so does this mean I shoud stop reading his poetry when I am older? Is he against old women? His poetry is too pure? He makes fun of blogs with someone named Summer? I don’t think anyone should speak for another person like this. Being friends with a famous person does not make you special. If that were true, I’d still rather befriend the janitor.
    I really have a problem with someone saying “that’s all you are” (while using the crutch of connection to a famous person) about anything to anyone. You are everything you want to be and then some.

  • Davielle

    Patti, I am blown away. gosh, I sure hope Summer never visits MY blogs – sheesh. You are correct in saying that she seems to be someone who really “NEEDS” to be “RIGHT”. to have “that last word”. To ONE-UP you, Patti. man oh man, I am sorry that this is going on. what a waste of precious energy – esp given that these could very well be Summer’s – well – her LAST 37 DAYS. you know what I mean? i would rather be CREATING MORE ART, writing more POETRY and STORIES, connecting with my loved ones – than bashing someone. anyone. HUGS TO YOU, PATTI – and I still can’t wait for that scarf to come avail !!! :-) DAVIELLE in Cali

  • Missy

    Oh Summer, how sad for you – such mean-spiritedness….that must be a heavy burden!
    Patti, as always, you rock!

  • JF Ptak

    Summer,

    You seem to be walking a little too much in someone else’s shoes on this one–Angry Shoes at that.

    We all get that you say that you know Mr. Collins. Okay, great. But I have a hard time picturing the man laughing about shoes and gum and stabbing poetry with scissors so that he can blow smoke through the holes. Seems a little low and much to me.

    WWGHD? (What Would Gil Hodges Do?)

  • Sally

    Patti, there is NO WAY Summer wins this round. Your gentle acceptance of her opinions shines so much brighter.

  • grace with ease

    I don’t know this Billy Collins person, or Summer, nor am I a critic of poetry, writing, anything really.

    I’m a reader here and a human be-ing
    and if my lovely sister like friend wrote a tribute like to that to me on her blog, if I was to make it to 60 (an amazing feat it would be) I know words like those you strung together in her honor, inspired by some poet, would make me feel special and loved in the world.

    Let’s all hope “Summer” get’s to feel special in a loving, rather than mean spirited, way some day too.

    blessed be

    Oh and p.s.
    when I get old
    my hair will be purple and I will make my car bounce like the chollos in L.A. do.
    I will laugh at and maybe even spit venom at nonsensical, young, twits being ugly- those twits who have no clue how specal and amazing it is to have survived and thrived, passion ntact at 60!
    I’ll applaud and laugh with all who are in alignment with how wonderful it is to be alive. We see
    and
    we be
    beauty through every season.

  • Lori Murray

    That last posting of hers was downright nasty. Forget about her, Patti. Your tribute to your friend and the power of women’s relationships was beautiful!

  • Deb

    To Summer ~ If that is truly your real name it is a beautiful name. I do not know who you really are but you are coming across to many as far from beautiful. Now I don’t like to give advice to strangers but here goes anyway ~ jealousy and mean spiritedness will rot your soul quickly. I also think that Mr. Collins is capable of speaking for himself and if he has a problem with Patti then he should/would/could talk/write to her personally. My last piece of advice to you is this ~ read ‘Life is a Verb’. It will help you as you attempt to live a life full of intention. Being mindful of moments and being mindful of the feelings of others might be a good place for you to begin.

  • Elisabeth Bednar

    I think Queen Bees of Blogs should operate the use of Delete Comment for hearts full of hate and souls so desperate for attention they attack a sweet tribute to friendship.

    Especially when said attacker’s raison d’etre seems based on a “friendship” they are eager to publicize.

    and more especially when they don’t have the courage to write their full, real name.

  • Elisabeth Bednar

    p.s.

    I think you should come to Paris and do a book reading at WH Smith on Rue de Rivoli.

  • jylene

    to summer- really, chill out already.

    to patti- loved the tribute to gay, love your writing as always.

    p.s. should i call you My Queen from now on?

  • zen

    A Litany for Summer

    By Billy Zen Richkowski

    Ech-chem…

    You are the bread and the knife,
    the crystal goblet and the wine.
    You are the dew underneath my feet
    and the sun burning and blistering my forehead.
    You are the wet flour I splashed on my apron which I only used in order to pretend I was baking
    The same color and consistency of what the birds drop as they suddenly take flight

    However, you are not a cool welcome breeze, but rather the hot air,
    the fermented plums left too long on the counter,
    or the bully who pulls out the foundation on my house of cards.
    And you are certainly not the pine-scented air.
    There is just no way that you are the pine-scented air.
    Unless it’s the fake kind that comes in an ozone choking aerosol can.

    It is possible that you are the fishy odor floating up from under the bridge,
    maybe even what the pigeon drops onto the general’s head,
    but you are not even close
    to being the field of cornflowers at dusk. Maybe cornstarch. Yeah…

    Cornstarch.

    And a quick look in the mirror will show
    that you may be either the boobs drooping toward the corners
    or the booty falling south of its seat

    It might interest you to know,
    speaking of the plentiful imagery of the world,
    that I am the sound of rain on your roof- the tin kind that
    doesn’t mind if it’s incessantly grating on your nerves.

    I also happen to be the shooting star way above your reach,
    the evening paper blowing down an alley darting out of your grip as you
    foolishly chase me
    and the basket of acorns tempting you on the kitchen table (hint-I really wouldn’t recommend eating those…

    unless you are a squirrel.

    Hmmm…ok. You are a squirrel. And it’s small game season.

    I am also mooning you in the trees
    and taking the spare change from your extended and broken cup.

    But don’t worry, I’m not the bread and the knife.
    You are still the bread and the knife.
    You will always be the bread and the knife,
    Cutting through all that warm, loveliness around you in the world.
    not to mention the crystal goblet, perhaps one of those ones at the Dollar Store, made in China by someone struggling to earn 10 cents a day. and–somehow–you are the wine.
    Well…maybe a cheap bottle of Canei.

    No…wait…

    You are a rose…a Wild Irish Rose bottle of wine.

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